fix: C action buffer lengths, byte-faithful callbacks, runtime finalize

Resolves the 8 gaps in docs/rewrite/notes/review-rv10-codex.md
(final-Z13.md):
- P1 memory safety: the C key-table action (and hovered-link/open-URL
  payloads) could advertise a length larger than the NUL-truncated
  allocation. A counted_bytes helper now passes the full bytes plus a
  trailing NUL with len == byte count, like Zig's backing slices; all
  C pointer+len structs were audited and tested to read exactly len.
- ghostty-bench args follow cli/args.zig (ordered duplicates, empty
  value resets, first bad value errors, parseBool spellings); the C
  benchmark tokenizer uses the ArgIteratorGeneral port.
- OSC 7 derived titles, desktop notifications and OSC 8 hover links
  forward raw bytes to the runtime; GTK converts only for display.
- C diagnostic getter exports original bytes; escaped surrogates report
  Utf8CannotEncodeSurrogateHalf; config float formatters print `nan`.
- Config::finalize_for(AppRuntime): GTK-only finalization (gtk-single-
  instance=detect) and termio's cgroup hooks apply only to the GTK
  runtime, so libghostty keeps `detect` like Zig.

Test Plan:
- cargo test --workspace --no-fail-fast (exit 0)
- cargo test -p ghostty-lib --features test-platform
- just check-wasm (macOS/Windows clippy re-run after the concurrent
  terminal changes land)

crates/ghostty-core/src/surface/mod.rs

@@ -960,9 +960,7 @@ impl Surface {
                     return Ok(());
                 }
 
-                let title = String::from_utf8_lossy(notification.title()).into_owned();
-                let body = String::from_utf8_lossy(notification.body()).into_owned();
-                self.show_desktop_notification(&title, &body);
+                self.show_desktop_notification(notification.title(), notification.body());
             }
 
             Message::RendererHealth(health) => self.update_renderer_health(health),